In the guise of 'teaching the facts of life' my father molested me from the time Mom went to work in 1958 till I left home in July of 1965. Not gonna give any more of the details. During an overnight visit to a friends home I was awakened by a man fondling my breasts and touching me. He constantly said it was ok just do not make a noise. A later to my parents home he raped me. Whispering, "I'm fixed do you will not get pregnant. Now keep quite."
Again, I did as told. I never fought. But the 61 years since the beginning of the incidents has been filled with self loathing. Decades were filled with nightmares, suicidal thoughts and threats. Of course there was so much therapy. In 2002 I was diagnosed with PTSD and treated with a reprocessing of the scenes. I would give the details of the events. A therapy treatment of eye movement and relaxation and then I would recite the details. Only this time I would yell or do what ever I wished I had done at the time of the incident.
And then the uproar over Brett Kavanaugh's Senate Judicial Committee hearings. I
Then there are the young boys that have been bullied and raped as a rite of passage by older boys. I do not have an answer to all this except to say this. Do not teach your boys that this is okay by saying you do not believe. By saying well it will ruin the rapist's life if we punish him for just being a boy following his nature. We cannot continue with this and expect the world to be any safer for any of us.